Low self-esteem is when you don’t think you’re good enough and believe other people are better than you. This can prevent you from enjoying life or reaching your full potential. It negatively impacts your life.
Self-esteem can be affected by events such as bullying, losing a job, a divorce or a physical illness – the same things that often cause anxiety, stress and depression, so low self-esteem is often associated with anxiety or depression.
Characteristics of people with low self-esteem include:
Unable to identify any personal good points or strengths.
Which isn’t true – but you still think it is.
Fearing it will always be the wrong decision.
For things that aren’t your fault.
When receiving gifts or spending money on yourself.
If, after practising these techniques for a few weeks, you see no improvement you should seek help. Speak to a friend, family member, your GP or a counsellor. A third party will often help you formulate your thoughts and set realistic targets to change the way you think.
Think “would I think the same of someone else?” If not, then don’t about yourself.
This is particularly true on social media – don’t connect with those that criticise others. You can help yourself by connecting with more positive people.
It might be helpful to say and think positive things about yourself, and if this is difficult, write a list you can easily look at.
Make decisions based on what you want to do. You don’t have to always say “yes” to be liked.